Do you have disordered eating thinking?

A huge goal in this blog is to reach out to others that feel seemingly stuck in “eating disordered thinking”.  In my own quest, I have found that it’s not about the food or how, when or what I eat – it’s about what my thinking tells me about all of it.  That has turned out to be the cornerstone of my recovery. I have had many old stories that have played on and on in my head sounding like broken records!  I have learned that those stories that I thought were gospel, just were not true!    

I have tried many, many approaches to rid myself of the eating disordered thinking.  In fact, in that statement lays a clue as to one of the reasons why it wasn’t leaving!  I was trying to rid myself of it as if it were a terrible plague that I had inflicted on myself.  That just was not the case!  These issues have actually turned out to be my greatest teachers.  In accepting myself and my disordered eating, I have found it to be a gateway to my feelings, something that I have always tried to avoid at all costs. 

Over the past year there have been what I call “God-Wink” moments that has set me in the direction of recovery.  I had to wait until the timing was right, until I was ready.  It was time to commit to my own recovery as this poem by  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe attests: 

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy.
The chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.
Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation).
There is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills
Countless ideas and splendid plans:
That the moment one definitely commits oneself,
Then Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would
Never otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
Raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents
And meetings and material assistance,
Which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.
Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.
Begin it now.

How about you?  Are you ready to commit to losing disordered eating thinking?  Are you ready to find the amazing you!?

 

What is your Wild Improbable Goal?

What is your Wildly Improbable Goal? Do you have something in your life that you long for, but are afraid to think about in fear that it will never come true? Ever hear of a WIG? A WIG is an acronym for a Wildly Improbable Goal, as Martha Beck writes about in her book, Finding your Own North Star. I am a true believer in the power of the WIG! It is an amazing concept, just how our beliefs can affect the outcome of our goals. If our thoughts tell us that a goal is wildly out of our reach, chances are it will stay out of our reach. If we dwell on the negative, we will get the negative. What if we can change our thoughts so that our wildest dreams do come true? I like R. Kelly’s lyrics “if I just believe it, there’s nothing to it, if I can see it, then I can do it”. Ah, what a much better feeling and thought. I can feel my body relax into it.We have the ability to feel as though our goals are already happening! The more that we can envision them, smell them, and touch them, the more likely our brains believe that we already have them. Maybe that’s our connection to God to line up the heavens in our favor, or maybe our inner north star to steer us toward them. Then all of the synchronicities of life seem to come together and begin working. It’s amazing! One of my WIGS this year was to be a part of Martha Beck’s Coach Training. When I first got the idea, it hurt as my thinking told me that there was no possible way.  I am so glad that I didn’t listen to that icky thought, because I just knew deep in my gut that I was meant to take the course. I thought about it, prayed about it, envisioned it, and even dreamed about it. I acted as if I was already doing it and sure enough, it happened. I am living one of my very own WIG’s.WIG possibilities are endless. Think about it, what is your biggest Wildly Improbable Goal? Just think, maybe next year at this time it may be your reality!

Who will you discover?

Just last year I had to face my truth.  I had to get real with myself.  I just had to know……I had to ask….

“Who will you discover?  Just who will you find as you delve deeper into your thoughts; as you uncover what you believed to be your life long truths, were merely stories.  Who are you exactly?  I mean, if you didn’t have disordered eating, just what could you be doing with your life.  Living with disordered eating can be like a full time job, just what could you do with your spare time? Would you go back to school?  Be closer to your significant other, or maybe you could write that book that you have always dreamed of writing?  You might even find the courage to leave the job that you feel chained to?  Think about it, your possibilities really are endless“.  

Now, I am asking you the same questions that I asked myself. 

Just who will you discover when dieting and bingeing aren’t the focal point of your life anymore?  It is so very possible.  I did it.  I am now able to really live and go for my dreams.  I am now in life coach training with Martha Beck and her life coaches.  My vision is to show others how to lose their disordered eating thoughts, just as I did.  

Please stay tuned to this blog.  As I gain knowledge and the tools in my training, I am going to coach.  I truly want to help you. 

Take care,
Debi Johnson